How to manage finances in a marriage: 8 tips to prepare for marriage financially
Marriage is an exciting life event—and one of the most significant family and estate financial milestones. As you get closer to the big day, it’s important to talk to your future spouse about how to prepare for marriage financially.
Approaching the conversation of how to manage your finances in a marriage doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, discussing your needs and financial goals with an Ameriprise financial advisor can help you and your future spouse get on the same page with your finances. These 8 tips can help you learn how to prepare for marriage financially.
1. Have a “money talk”
One of the most primary pieces of marriage and finance advice is simply: Set up time to discuss finances with your partner. Honest financial conversations can help you avoid misunderstandings now and down the road. This conversation checklist can help you get started:
- Start discussions sooner. Set aside time for regular conversations to help you stay on the same page financially as your priorities and life circumstances evolve. Talk about family finances before you get married and before a major life event occurs, such as buying a new house or having a child. Include how you will continue to communicate about your finances along the way.
- Create shared goals and priorities. Talk about your vision of the future. What’s important to you now, and what do you want to achieve in 5 - 10 years? What are your goals for retirement? Set an agenda to help stay focused and collaborative. Be realistic about what you can cover in each session, and plan for complex topics to take a few meetings.
- Discuss financial mistakes openly. If either of you have made financial mistakes in the past, talk about it openly with your partner but without pointing the finger.
- Work with an advisor. An Ameriprise financial advisor can help guide money conversations and provide guidance for the long term. They’ll take the time to understand what’s truly important to you and your spouse and provide personalized advice based on your goals and needs as a couple.
2. Create a budget
A budget can help you understand your current spending patterns and align your day-to-day habits with your long-term financial priorities and values.
Some couples designate one spouse to manage the budget, while others may take turns keeping records and paying the bills. Whatever your approach, ensure you’re both aligned and keep your records and important documents somewhere you both can easily locate, when needed.
3. Manage debt
Learning how to manage finances in a marriage means learning how to manage debt. Managing debt can be a stressful process. When getting married, one spouse may have more debt than the other, or you both may have debt from credit cards, student loans, etc. The first step to tackle debt is to create a plan. Based on your budget, decide how much money you have available to pay down your debts each month. For student loans, pick the most feasible repayment option.
It’s important to be upfront when managing debt and to have a safe space to discuss solutions. An Ameriprise financial advisor can help factor debt management into your financial strategy.
4. Decide on bank accounts: joint, separate, or mixed
To prepare for marriage financially, some couples merge their bank accounts, others keep them separate and some have a mixture of both.
For example, some couples find it helpful to set up a combination of joint accounts for shared household expenses and separate accounts for personal spending. Whichever decision you make as a couple, plan to discuss it early in the marriage.
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5. Review your insurance options
An important piece of finance advice is for you and your spouse to discuss insurance coverage plans. Understand the different types of insurance available and decide together which are the best for your family’s needs.
- Health insurance. If each of you has separate health insurance coverage, do a cost and benefit analysis for both plans. Which is better—the family plan or two single plans? Which plan has a higher deductible and higher copayments? Which offers the most benefits? Which plan(s) make the most sense for your new situation?
- Auto and home insurance. Consider consolidating your auto insurance policies along with your homeowners or renters’ insurance with one company. Many companies will give you a discount if you insure more than one car with them. If one of you has a poor driving record, however, make sure changing companies won’t mean paying a higher premium.
- Life insurance and disability income insurance. It’s always advisable to be prepared for an unforeseeable situation such as an illness, disability or a death. An Ameriprise financial advisor can help you determine the type and amount of coverage to help protect and secure your family’s financial future.
6. Consider whether you want to purchase a home
Buying a home is a long-term investment and one of the biggest reasons why it’s so important to understand how to manage your finances in a marriage. Before you purchase a home, review your financial situation carefully, including these actions:
- Determine your budget
- Check your credit score
- Save for a down payment
- Get pre-qualified for a mortgage loan
- Decide on ownership based on your situation and wishes (e.g., joint tenancy to help transfer of ownership to surviving spouse upon death)
Once all the necessary items are in order, decide together where you want to live and the must-haves in a home. Being on the same page with your spouse about these details will make your house hunting easier.
7. Determine your estate plan actions
Prepare a will
Consider preparing a will early in your marriage, especially if you and your spouse already have children, or plan to, at some point in your marriage.
A will allows you to specify who will care for your minor children and where your assets will go to in the event of your passing. Even if your estate is modest or you are young, having a legally valid and up-to-date will can provide comfort for you, your family and loved ones.
Update your beneficiaries
Updating your beneficiaries on your financial accounts is also an important action to take as you prepare financially for marriage, because a will does not supersede beneficiary designations in determining who receives your assets after you die. Thus, all financial accounts (regardless of size) should have primary and contingent beneficiaries named—and updated over time, as needed.
Name a health care directive and power of attorney
A health care directive and power of attorney are additional estate documents to have your attorney prepare. This will direct your wishes in case of a medical emergency and direct who will make decisions on your behalf if needed.
8. Understand existing family obligations
Do you or your spouse have children from another relationship? Has your spouse been previously married? If so, it’s important to determine how existing obligations—like payments for child or spousal support, for example—will impact your budget. Additionally, it may also affect where you decide to buy a home, determine beneficiaries and stipulations in a will, and inform the level and type of insurance you select.
We can help you plan for your future
When you get married, your lives change. So does your financial situation. An Ameriprise financial advisor can help you learn how to prepare for marriage financially with personalized advice as you start this new chapter.
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